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An Irish domestic violence campaigner who was emotionally and physically abused from the age of eight is to make an address at a major conference on the issue in the UK.<\/p>\nAn Irish domestic violence campaigner who was emotionally and physically abused from the age of eight is to make an address at a major conference on the issue in the UK.<\/p>\n
Ainie Grainger, 21, will be part of a panel of speakers at Cambridge University to challenge the assumptions about who is affected by domestic violence.<\/p>\n
Ms Grainger and her mother Priscilla have helped to lead the campaign to have domestic violence made a crime in Ireland.<\/p>\n
Priscilla suffered more than a decade of harrowing abuse before she and Ainie set up Stop Domestic Violence in Ireland (SDVII), a voluntary organisation to help women and men who find themselves trapped in violent relationships, in 2014.<\/p>\n
Ainie was just 14 at the time.<\/p>\n
She said that when the abuse started she did not know what it was and believed it was part of a normal childhood.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t know what was going on, I was totally oblivious to it all,\u201d Ainie said.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen he used to pick me up from school he would say he\u2019s going to the shop but it would be the bookies and he could be gone for over an hour to two hours while I would be waiting inside the locked car.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t know what it was, I didn\u2019t know what the words domestic violence meant.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t know if it was ever going to end. I didn\u2019t recognise it until I was about 13.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe abuse was mental and physical.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ainie and her mother now work with a team of domestic violence survivors who provide vital and practical assistance to help victims plan their exit from abusive relationships.<\/p>\n
SDVII provides practical and emotional support to survivors.<\/p>\n
They have an in-house solicitor to provide expert legal advice, free counselling, food, clothes and shelter.<\/p>\n
On Monday she will address the special conference on domestic violence.<\/p>\n
Ainie will appear on a stage where previous speakers include businessman Bill Gates, politician Emily Thornberry and singer Dua Lipa.<\/p>\n
She will appear with speakers from Hestia, an organisation which supports women and children in crisis, and Elizabeth Woocraft, a former barrister who helped advise on the 1976 Matrimonial and Domestic Abuse Bill.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know what to expect because I\u2019ve seen the room where I will be speaking in and it\u2019s massive,\u201d Ainie added.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s just very different from what I would normally do because I\u2019ve never been outside Ireland to speak on a stage and this is the first achievement outside home.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ainie, who works as a travel agent in Dublin, uses innovative campaigning and social media to help teenagers who are victims of domestic abuse.<\/p>\n
She uses Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat to speak to young people.<\/p>\n
\u201cI have my own personal account on Instagram and the reason why I haven\u2019t made a support page is because it\u2019s easier for the people who are abusing to see that someone is following a domestic violence page,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
\u201cEach week I speak on a different topic about it.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s very tough for people to reach out \u2013 we have this stigma in Ireland where we brush it under the carpet and say things like you have to get on with it and that\u2019s where it has to stop.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe need to be able to say enough is enough and not be embarrassed about it.\u201d<\/p>\n
Last year, Justice Minister Charlie Flanagan established an independent research on femicide and domestic homicide.<\/p>\n
However, SDVII say women will continue to be abused and murdered unless the law is changed.<\/p>\n
Ainie added: \u201cThe time for talking is through \u2013 it seems crazy in this day and age that domestic violence is still not recognized as a criminal offence. What kind of message does this send out?<\/p>\n
\u201cHow many more women must be beaten, abused and murdered before the authorities take the steps that are needed to protect them from their abusers?\u201d<\/p>\n